• From Ravan to Reflection: Leading with Awareness (and some Puri, Bhaji and Halwa)

    The first image that comes to mind when we think of Ravan is of a towering figure with ten heads. He was someone defeated by Lord Ram, the embodiment of dharma. But what if we looked beyond the label of “villain”? What if Ravan, the ten-headed king of Lanka, was also a mirror to the complexities that lie within all leaders?

    Dussehra reminds us each year of the triumph of good over evil. But beneath the fiery effigy lies a deeper lesson – one that speaks not just to morality, but to leadership.

    Ravan: The Complex Leader

    Ravan was no ordinary king. He was a brilliant scholar and a master of the Vedas. He was a powerful ruler who transformed Lanka into a golden kingdom. Additionally, he was a fierce devotee of Lord Shiva. His intellect was vast, his ambition boundless. Yet, why do you think that despite his genius, his downfall was inevitable?

    We may find the answer in his ten heads. This may not be just a mythological exaggeration. Instead, it could be a symbol of the many dimensions that reside within every leader.

    Ravan’s ten heads can be seen as symbolic of the various human tendencies. Each of us experiences these at some point. These tendencies range from desire, anger, delusion, greed, pride, jealousy, and ego. They also include intellect, mind, and will. Some of these tendencies, when harnessed and balanced, can fuel vision and strategy. They also support resilience and passion. Others, if left unchecked, can lead to impulsiveness and arrogance. Eventually, they can cause downfall. The true challenge is not to deny these tendencies. Instead, it is to recognize and master the ones that threaten to overpower our better judgment. Ravan’s failure wasn’t in having these traits but it was in letting them overpower his judgment. Just like Ravan, modern leaders carry multiple ‘heads.’ True leadership lies not in suppressing them. It lies in managing them with awareness, humility, and emotional intelligence.

    A Modern-Day Parallel: Two Leaders, Two Outcomes

    Early in my career in the hospitality industry, I had the experience of working under a particularly overly aggressive leader. I consider myself fortunate to have encountered such leadership style. Sometimes witnessing poor leadership firsthand is the best way to understand the kind of leader you don’t want to become. This person was a senior leader who often leveraged position for personal gain, acting without regard for others. Their dictatorial behavior included making obnoxious comments. They also consistently set poor examples. This behavior fostered a toxic culture, leaving the team totally demoralized. No leader’s unchecked arrogance, like Ravana’s, can last forever. Ravana’s power could not endure, and similarly, this person also faced downfall.

    In contrast, I remember another leader equally driven, but deeply reflective. When I first started working with this leader, I felt controlled and dominated. Despite my experience and knowledge, decisions were being made before I could even share a thought. It felt rigid and, honestly, uncomfortable. But instead of letting frustration grow, I chose to have an open conversation. I shared my perspective objectively, unsure of what to expect. I was pleasantly surprised with the positive response and acceptance from that leader. From that point on, everything changed. The environment became collaborative, creative, and energizing. I realized that a leader’s greatness lies not just in their intellect or decisiveness. It is found in their openness to feedback, humility, and willingness to adapt.

    Like Ravana, both leaders had ten heads, but the difference wasn’t in the skill – it was in inner leadership.

    The Real Lesson of Ravan

    Ravan’s downfall began not with the abduction of Sita, but with ego overriding wisdom. He refused to listen and dismissed good counsel. He also let his many heads speak over each other, and ultimately, overpowered his own ability to course-correct. With so many impulses pulling in different directions, he lost the ability to steer himself. Over time, what could have been his strength became his undoing. That’s what makes his story eternally relevant and not just as a myth, but as a leadership metaphor, reminding us that self-awareness and humility matter more than sheer power

    A Dussehra Reflection on My Leadership Journey

    Early in my journey, some voices, like pride or impatience, often dominated. Others, like patience, listening, or reflection, remained quiet. I learned, sometimes the hard way, that leadership is not about silencing parts of myself or others. It is not about asserting power over them. True leadership lies in integration, honoring all aspects of thought, emotion, and perspective. Over time, this reflection has shaped my leadership. It has taught me to lead from awareness rather than impulse. It has shown me to balance strength with empathy. It has guided me to use my abilities wisely rather than excessively.

    This Dussehra, I celebrate not just the victory of good over evil. I also celebrate the ongoing journey of self-mastery, awareness, and conscious leadership. The voices within me work together. They guide my decisions and shape the impact I create.

    Balancing the Flavours (Just like Leadership Traits)

    No Dussehra is complete without food that brings comfort, nostalgia, and joy. While the day symbolizes the triumph of self-mastery, it also brings the warmth of tradition into our homes.
    My personal festive favorite includes puri, aloo sabzi, and sooji ka halwa. The crispy hot puris are puffed to perfection. The dry aloo sabzi has a minty flavor. Of course, suji ka halwa is a must, roasted golden semolina with ghee, cardamom, and ground almonds. Each bring something distinct, but together, they create a complete, comforting experience. It reminds me that in leadership too, you need heat, strength, softness and sweetness, but in the right proportions.

    My Dussehra Recipe: Puri, Aloo Sabzi & Suji ka Halwa

    1. Puri (Fluffy Deep-Fried Bread)

    Ingredients:

    • 2 cups wheat flour
    • Water (as needed to knead)
    • Oil (for deep frying)

    Method:

    1. Mix flour by adding water gradually and knead into a firm, smooth dough.
    2. Rest the dough for 15–20 minutes.
    3. Divide into small balls, roll into discs (not too thin).
    4. Heat oil in a kadhai; once hot, deep-fry each puri until golden and puffed.
    5. Drain on paper towels and serve hot.

    2. Dry Aloo Sabzi

    Ingredients:

    • 4 medium potatoes (boiled and cubed)
    • 1 tbsp oil
    • ½ tsp mustard seeds
    • ½ tsp cumin seeds
    • A pinch of hing (asafoetida)
    • 2 green chilies, chopped
    • Few curry leaves
    • 1 tbsp crushed dried mint leaves
    • Salt, sugar, and turmeric to taste
    • Chopped coriander

    Method:

    1. Heat oil in a pan. Add mustard and cumin seeds along with the curry leaves.
    2. Once they splutter, add hing and green chilies.
    3. Add the boiled potatoes, turmeric, sugar and salt.
    4. Toss gently until coated and slightly crisp.
    5. Garnish with crushed dried mint leaves and coriander.

    3. Suji ka Halwa (Semolina Pudding)

    Ingredients:

    • ½ cup suji (semolina)
    • ¼ cup ghee
    • ½ cup sugar (adjust to taste)
    • 1 cup water
    • 1 cup milk
    • ½ tsp cardamom powder
    • 2 tbsp powdered almonds

    Method:

    1. In a pan, heat ghee and roast semolina/suji on a low flame until golden brown and aromatic.
    2. Add the sugar and keep stirring for a minute.
    3. Slowly pour the water and then the milk into the roasted suji, stirring continuously.
    4. Cook until the mixture thickens and ghee starts to leave the sides.
    5. Add powdered almonds and stir. Serve hot.

    Whether it’s ten heads or ten flavors on a plate, balance is key. Too much of one, and the magic is lost. Just enough, and the result is unforgettable!

  • There are two leadership practices I’ve always stayed true to:
    ✔️ Seeking feedback consistently, and
    ✔️ Taking full ownership when things go wrong.

    In one-on-one check-ins, I invite feedback from my team not as a formality, but as a mirror. Sometimes, the reflection isn’t flattering. For instance, I’ve been told my feedback style can feel too direct, maybe even harsh.

    It wasn’t easy to hear that. But it made me pause and shift. I began using a coaching approach: instead of telling, I started asking. I framed my thoughts as questions, nudging team members to arrive at the insight themselves. It took time, patience, and a lot more preparation, but the shift was powerful. They felt heard. I felt more connected.

    Humility doesn’t mean shrinking. It means showing up with the courage to be wrong, and the willingness to evolve.

    Another space where humility shows up for me is in the face of failure. Whenever a client escalation happened, I never passed the buck. I stood in front, took responsibility, and shielded the team. Not because I had to, but because leadership is about owning the process, not just the praise.

    And speaking of humility…

    What better dish to represent this leadership spice than a bowl of khichdi?
    Humble, forgiving, nourishing and universally comforting. Like humility, it may seem simple on the surface, but it holds depth, balance, and quiet strength.

    Khichdi originated in ancient India and is one of the oldest comfort foods in the subcontinent. Dating back to the Vedic period, it was praised in Ayurvedic texts for being light and nutritious. Made with rice and lentils, it is simple. This simplicity allowed it to evolve across regions. Each region added their own twist, from Bengal’s spiced bhuna khichuri to South India’s pongal. Even the Mughals created richer versions, influencing dishes like biryani. Over time, khichdi became a symbol of unity in diversity, and was even showcased as India’s first “superfood” in 2017.


    The Humble Khichdi Recipe 🥄

    Ingredients:

    • 1/2 cup moong dal (yellow lentils)
    • 1/2 cup rice
    • 1 tbsp ghee (clarified butter)
    • 1/2 tsp cumin seeds
    • 1/4 tsp turmeric powder
    • Salt to taste
    • 1 chopped green chili (optional)
    • A pinch of asafoetida (hing)
    • 3–4 cups water (adjust based on your texture preference)

    Tempering (optional):

    • Ghee
    • A few curry leaves
    • A pinch of red chili powder

    Method:

    1. Wash the rice and dal together and soak for 15–20 minutes.
    2. In a pressure cooker, heat ghee, add cumin seeds, green chili, hing, and turmeric.
    3. Add the soaked rice and dal. Mix well.
    4. Add salt and water. Pressure cook for 3–4 whistles (or cook in an open pot until soft).
    5. Add a final tempering of ghee, curry leaves, and red chili powder if you like.

    Serve hot with papad, pickle, or just a spoonful of curd.

    Leadership, like khichdi, doesn’t need to be fancy to be fulfilling.
    When spiced with humility, it nourishes trust, growth, and resilience

    What’s your favorite spice in leadership?

  • Welcome to Leadership Spice: Where Lessons Simmer and Stories Sizzle

    Hello and welcome!

    I’m so excited (and a little nervous) to write this first post. Leadership Spice has been simmering in my mind for a long time. Today, it’s finally on the plate and ready to be served.

    👋 A Little About Me

    I’ve worn many hats. I’ve been a leadership consultant, an HR professional, a mentor, and a coach. Most importantly, I am a lifelong learner. I’ve spent over three decades working with people — helping them grow, navigate challenges, communicate better, and lead more authentically.

    But there’s another side of me that has always been quietly powerful: my love for food. Cooking has never been just a chore or a hobby. It’s where I go to reflect, recharge, and reconnect. I’ve had some of my best ideas and insights while cooking. These ideas did not come in boardrooms, but while stirring a pot or rolling out dough.

    🌶️ Why “Leadership Spice”?

    Because leadership, like cooking, is an art.

    It’s about balancing ingredients. It’s about timing things just right and adding heat when needed. Most of all, it’s about knowing when to stir and when to let things settle.

    This blog is my space to bring together these two worlds:

    • Stories from my leadership journey — successes, failures, feedback moments, turning points
    • Reflections and metaphors from the kitchen
    • And yes, recipes — some simple, some soulful, all meaningful

    Join Me on This Journey

    You might be a leader or a learner. You could be a food lover or someone simply looking for thoughtful stories. I hope you’ll find something here that nourishes your mind. I also hope it nourishes your spirit.

    Thanks for being here.
    And as we say in the kitchen — stay tuned, things are just starting to sizzle!

    With warmth,

    Meeta